Everyone loves the truth. Well not everyone loves to say the truth, but everyone wants to hear it. That explains why you get mad when someone lies to you, especially someone you trust, or whose opinion matters to you. As a matter of fact, no one likes being lied to, because sooner or later, some important choice or decision is going to be made based on that lie, and the outcome is almost often not so pleasant. Even half the truth is just as bad as telling a lie because the part you’d want to hide is the most important part of all. But my mind races to the lie. You’d be surprised that lies kinda have some logic bomb designed inside them, once the required conditions have been adequately met, the explosion is loud and deafening, bright and blinding, hot, steaming and burning away at the tongue that utters it.
Before I delve into true lies, I’d like to say a bit about the believe system. Human beings from time past have always been prone to believing in something. And whatever it is that we believe has a way of altering the normal flow of things (Please don’t go jumping out of windows believing you can fly, that never ever ends well).
At this point, you’re probably starting to wonder the relationship between truths, half-truths and the believe system of human beings. Well, to cut a really long story short, I’d rather talk about the lies and half-truths, then it’s all downhill from there (I think).
Have you ever been lied to? Yes, you have, and you were probably livid when you found out. But have you ever lied to yourself? … waiting … aha! I see that accusing finger bending right down to face yours truly. I think at some point in our lives, we have been guilty of doing that. A lie would be defined as a lie… sorry, a lie is a lie! As long as it’s not the truth, then it’s a lie.
I’m going to draw a picture hoping you get it perfectly. Imagine where a lazy student (very lazy I might add) so vehemently accuses his teachers of victimizing him to the point that he genuinely begins to feel anger and resentment towards them. Although quite difficult to admit, his anger was based on a lie he chose to tell himself to the point that he actually believed it. All he had to do was lie, and actually believe it, then all that was necessary to justify it came as expected; anger rose up in him, and the feeling of being a victim took the place of reflection and a desire to change positively.
Drawing closer to true lies, I’d say people have said lies which end up being true as a result of the power in actually believing the lie. People have out rightly said “I’m going to die a lonely man/woman”, or “poverty runs in my family”, or “I don’t have what it takes to pass math”, or “I’m not strong enough to make it”, or “I’m not going to make the cut”, or “I’m always at the losing end on the loser’s table”, or “ I don’t like me very much”, or “I’ll never be saved”, or “I’m never going to stop this bad habit”, or “I’m not surprised, life has never been good to me”, or just plain “I’m screwed!” At the end of the day, they wind up in all or most of the situations they have generously placed themselves in with their tongues. So I’m not talking about the lie you tell to get out of trouble (that’s equally bad), I’m talking about the lie you tell to have the feeling off hopelessness and despair. Many a lie has been giving power, for the things I keep saying to myself I might easily believe, and once I believe, all I need do is wait for the evidence. Sooner or later, I see myself in that situation and probably go deeper than I already have.
Everyone can tell a lie, but probably even more subtle but dangerous is the lie one tells to himself constantly and repeatedly. In as much as we appreciate the truth from others, we owe ourselves the truth as well. If people’s actions are based on the truths or lies they hear from others as they live every day, then an even larger percentage of their actions are based on the truths or lies they tell themselves. So what you should be saying is “I’m going to come out poverty”, or “I have what it takes to be a success”, or “I am going to be on the winning side”. Those are all positive statements, and most importantly, they are true! So in this case the truth ain’t bitter, as a matter of fact, it’s just what we all need to hear. Tell me what you think…
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